Just reading the updated stuff on your sitch LIS. Hugs to you. Sounds like H has had his brains sucked out and replaced with a lump of coal. Wish I could give you some great wonderful advice, but heck, my H sounds pretty much the same. he doesn't have OW yet...but it is coming.

Semms like your H needs his ego stroked. Taking OW to old town, bars ect...What I don't understand is how he can go out with OW and still come home to you? i would not be the one humiliated. He should be. How can he hold his head up???? He is still M for goodness sakes.

Anyways, I don't know what to recommend for you. You really need to decide what you want. I think it was on one the comments on your thread that said "the one who loves the least controls the relationship"

Time to ACT AS IF you are the one that loves the least and get some control back...

More hugs for you!!!

Me:35, 2 kids from PR
H: 37, 2 kids with me
T: 15 years
M: 8 years in Feb.
Second walk out: 14-01-2011
H had PA: 2007