One man's good advice is another man's downfall. You are on the right track.
I do not think you are pursuing and you do not need to explain yourself to folks who are putting pressure on you.
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My whole marriage and the first years of my children's lives have been wasted by me and my huge time consuming hobby's. I don't want that anymore. My GAL is my W and family. I do not know how to do any different. If this is what I want, why should I?
As for what I need to do for myself if things don't work out? Why can I not deal with that when the time comes. I am really tired of being told to prepare myself for the end of my marriage. I feel selfish worrying about myself, I put my W and kids way higher than myself on my priority list. If this is wrong, so be it.
Yes, fighting for my marriage is also about me and what I want, but a happy marriage is something that includes us all. When my family is at stake, I can care less what happens to me and what I want.
If this is somehow unattractive to a woman, scr#w em!
It IS attractive to women. There is no ONE description of what is attractive to women.
