Played TT tonight with XH. I'm still working on X-MIL's birthday present for tomorrow evening, so I'm just going to post a very brief update. More to come tomorrow, after X-MIL's birthday party.
XH arrived in a good mood tonight. He seemed MUCH more relaxed than the past 3 weeks. I told him so and said you must feel a lot less stressed with your mother out of the hospital (she was in and out for the last 2 weeks) and now that your office renovations are completed and you've finally moved back into your office. He nodded in agreement.
We played hard. XH won all the games except one, but I gave him some competition. Not a lot of chatting during the game because over the past few weeks, XH has been playing more intensely. Not much laughing and joking. I miss that. .....Not many openings to flirt either since there wasn't much chit chat. When I won the game I walked up to XH and took his head and pulled it into my shoulder and patted his head saying "There, there now. Don't be sad. You'll be OK." He played along, but when I lost and tried to cry on HIS shoulder, he kind of brushed me off.
I told XH about different things in my life to try to engage him in conversation (i.e. the investigation of my stolen wallet, the status of the patio tree, asked about his mother's health, showed him photos of my niece's 2 chihuahuas running on a treadmill (this was funny!)), but didn't get much of a reaction.
The only thing that seemed to trigger interest from XH was when we were walking to the car I told him I'd taken a French cooking class and had scheduled 2 more classes in the home of a professional chef who lives in our neighborhood. He perked up then and said "I didn't know you like French food." I said "I like everything French!" (We went to Paris on our honeymoon.) I told him about the wonderful olive oil and smoked Spanish paprika spice she'd introduced the class to. His eyes looked interested. This is odd since XH HATES cooking and used to complain if I asked him to rinse greens for a salad.
XH also appeared interested when I told him that I was "making" a birthday present for X-MIL. I told him it was a "craft project".
I DID get the sense that XH has broken up with GF#2. At the end of the game, as we were getting ready to leave the building I asked XH what was new with him. He said "Have you heard anything else from the person who sent the anonymous package?" I replied "You know who I think sent that package. You're welcome to look at it if you want." Then I asked how BMF and BMF's XW were getting along these days. XH said "BMF doesn't seem to mind that I'm in contact with his XW." Then I said "Do you need BMF's approval to socialize with people?" We dropped the convo after that and walked out of the building. I didn't put the pieces together until after leaving the building that XH probably asked me about the anonymous package because he thought if GF#2 sent it she might have contacted me after they broke up.
XH did seem a little subdued. Friendly and not depressed. Just not REALLY engaged in the fun.
I'll post after the birthday party tomorrow evening.
