Someone suggest H is having a MLC....I don't know?

[Queen_of_Swords]

The way I see things, this is no win situation from what I'm reading and discovering about MLC and in what you all have told me.

I have often thought this myself in month 16.

I am no good at throwing 2x4s but you will read that the winning comes from the improvements you make for yourself and your kids. Evaluating if there actually is any truth in the words of the irrational spouse. You can change those things without him.

I have attempted to reason with my W. I gave her 100 reasons to stay/return. But I now know that no amount of rational thought will have any place among the negative and hurtful memories she's created from our M.

Best of luck on this path. It is the hardest one you'll ever walk.

Yeah well those changes in me will come regardless because my focus has shifted and now I'm doing it for my own well being and for my kids. Is that winning? I question that. It is a gain, it is growth, it is movement forward, but it's no Greycup championship trophy.

I will talk to my DB coach. So many thoughts going through my head. It may be time to go darker than I have been. If he's not going to be a part of my life, then perhaps I have to behave as is that's my new reality.