Only after she's on her own can there be any progress in either direction.
I have kept up with your thread Pickle. I agree with your statement that I have quoted above.
BUT... you do not need to do this in a non-DB way. You seem very angry right now. VERY understandable. But not usually helpful.
Don't sink to the level where your W is right now. Don't let anger guide you and your actions man.
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I'd also add that, IMO, you haven't given this enough time. I think that you do need space from W and need to get DARK. Remember, TIME AND PATIENCE.
The only way to go dark is if we part ways. D negotiations or at least threat of destroying the fantacy is actually going to be the best way to make her face the consequences.
Before D, I could not legally kick her out and I could not leave without risking her lawyer accusing me of abandonment.
But now I have leverage.
She had a fantasy in her head and as Gritter said, money would rain down from the sky. But now I have to play my hand.
Keep your fingers crossed, because I have detached.
Me 53 XW 50 M 18 Years +2 S14 D19 Bomb 10-24-10 Served 1-27-11 Mediate 4-21-11 Civil D Final 6-2-11 No church anullment "A man is not finished when he is defeated, he is finished when he quits."
