I feel like that MJ about 100 times a day. When I was an infantry squad leader in the Army I was very close, and still am, with a guy who believed the same things as me. We both were completely insync on how to train and lead soldiers. One major difference. I used the bull in the china shop approach with my cahin of command because I believed they were screwed up. They were! I was called the rogue SGT. My squad was almost among the best in everything we did and my men would walk through fire for me. They were loyal to me! My friend was no different his squad loved him.
One big difference. I kept getting screwed and he got lot's of praise and medals. Why. Because he was smart and I was not. He played the game. All smiles and very political the comand thought he was great. Little did they know once out of sight he did what ever he wanted. I on the other hand was upfront. "you want me to do what? That's retarded LT" what did I get? A lot of added stress.
The point is in a situation like this you must control your emotions and remind calm and truly practice it or you will never get the upper hand. If they go ahead with the D let them go into it thinking you were fine with it and smiled all the way to the court even if go home later and crawl into the bathtub naked and screaming.
When I talk to my W and she seems so happy it is tearing me up truth is she is a much better DBer than I am. Go figure!
