I am so happy to hear you saying these things because YOU DO DESERVE BETTER.
Like kml says, if she decides different, then you need to be assured that she has worked on herself. I don't think she understands what love is right now. I am not so sure this is about you. And as far as the new man is concerned, say a prayer for him because he's going to be in the same spot pretty soon.
Something else really struck me about what you said. You are right, you must consider your future children and the type of person you want raising them. Children are a lifetime commitment that you cannot walk away from.
Please take care of yourself and keep us updated on how you are doing.
