How often do you email your W, again? I did daily. Haven't for 3 days now.
Does she respond? No.
If no, when was the last time that she did? She hasn't.
Does she initiate contact of any kind? If I go about a week without saying anything to her, she will start a chat with me.
How often do you send care packages? Last one was for Christmas.
How long is W's deployment? Its for 6 months, and she gets back at the beginning of April, possibly mid april.
Has W told you where she plans to live when she returns? No, she says she wants to return and then move back to the east coast for Fall semester. She hasn't told me her plans up to that point.
But I think that we need to figure out where you are exactly in the steps... I agree, we generally have a friendly back and forth, but usually with me initiating.
Originally Posted By: Phoenixdeux
Let me ask you something...how would you trust her again? What if you had a couple kids with her then she chose to cheat again? Do you feel your video gaming gave her carte Blanche to submarine the marriage?
I think "okay, but what is the long term outlook? What do you lose by walking away?"
If you improve yourself and she doesn't notice and want the new you...why do you want her?
I'm not sure on the trust thing. I think its something that will take a long time to rebuild, but eventually I think I can. No I don't think video gaming gives her a pass to do whatever, but I do feel quite a bit of my own guilt for her not wanting to remain married.
I think its necessary for me to feel like I have made every last effort that I am capable of to save my marriage, partially from my own views on divorce. Partially from knowing that every relationship goes through a really tough time (mine might be a little extreme). And partially from really and truly loving her.
If I do improve myself, and she doesn't want the new me, or the old me, or any me. I think I will have to give up. I truthfully love being with her, I always told people that I married my best friend. I don't know, I can't describe exactly why I want to try to make it work, its a whole combination of things.
I think thats a road that I'll have to cross if I come to it though, until then I think I'm going to act as if.
