YR, I'm sorry to see that you have returned because the MLC monster is still visiting w/your h. Sometimes, they return to us and move along the path and yet they have not completely integrated and faced all of the issues that have been "in hiding". You know the drill and you know what you need to do..listen, step back and give him lots of room.
Congratulations on the new grand baby. What's her name?
Most important of all...focus on you and your family...take care of yourself and do what you need to do to stay sane.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.