XH is marrying OW after only 5 months of D!!

[BeingMe]

I agree, stick to the boundary. And since he is the one breaking the rules and possibly will need to go to court, he can pay the legal bill. Present that to the judge, if you need to go. It's so sad that you can't have a good post divorce R as parents and even just as civil human beings. Clearly, he doesn't much care for his children all that much ... if he did, he would be treating their mother with a lot more kindness.

Take care.

[lea74]

Thanks. You know I dont even need the kindness just a little respect. Like you say I am their mother and in all essence am raising his children for him. He doesnt do any of that kind of stuff.

Have stuck to my guns on this one. Have chatted to L and if he doesnt return them by the court ordered time I will be calling the police.

I let him know and he has still insisted that he will drop them off when he can.


Watch this space!! Guess I will be phoning the police on sunday evening.

[lea74]

Based on the advise of my L I had to let XH know via email that my boys need to be home on time at the end of half term. He had asked if they could come home a little later and I agreed.

However, he hasnt booked tickets and based on the lastest events I went back to him and said it wouldnt be possible. I know, i know - probably not a good idea. Just trying to set that boundary.

Anyway he responded:

'I see you are back to your true form ... how refreshing'

Really have no idea what that means. I havent responded as it will just become an email marathon and it wont get us anywhere.

Really just wish all the madness would end and we could get on with our lives. I suppose that is expecting too much given our situation.

[lea74]

So Xh didnt arrive on time as I expected. So I phoned the police as my L suggested. However they said they couldnt become involved as it is a civil matter and they dont get involved. well what is the use of a contact oder if it is not enforceable. Anyway I was glad to have my sons home.

The didnt seem to have a good weekend though. It seems as I stood up to XH he and OW spent the weekend saying terrible things about me to my sons.

They also said I wouldnt let my sons go skiing which is not the case at all. I just said that they need to be home on time - as per the contact order my XH asked for.

Will he ever take responsibility for his decisions or actions? Will I always be blamed for everything??? He keeps calling me bitter?? I am not bitter - well not anymore. I am just disappointed at his behaviour as a person and a father.

[figgeroni]

actually the police are hesitant to do stuff because it IS a civil matter but it becomes a criminal matter when they do not abide by the contact order

I deal with this all time in my domestic violence work...

if it happens again you can respectfully remind the police of this fact

[mojo]

Having read this thread I'm so glad that my ex just wasn't interested in his kids.

Best wishes x

[cat03]

They also said I wouldnt let my sons go skiing which is not the case at all. I just said that they need to be home on time - as per the contact order my XH asked for.

Will he ever take responsibility for his decisions or actions? Will I always be blamed for everything??? He keeps calling me bitter?? I am not bitter - well not anymore. I am just disappointed at his behaviour as a person and a father.

Hi, don't know your whole store, though I see your exH is a piece of work, I say, pick your battles carefully... you loose some you get some... sometimes, you got to loose something to get something.

And the thing about you being bitter, HA! as the kids counselor would say "he is so full of himself" please! as if the kids' well-being mattered less than your contempt to him, they think they are all that. Good luck honey, I too had to deal for a while with the stupid couple that was exH and crazy new W.

For the boys sake... again... choose your battles, only the kids matter now and sometimes we have to make tough desicions.