Who has more value? Me, because I still love her, and want the life I know we can have. I can see what we can be.
How come your wife can't see it? Hint: because you are pursuing her.
It's a two pronged approach - be the man she fell in love with and is beneficial for you while at the same time giving her space (detaching, dropping the rope, GAL, being mysterious). Let her pursue you. Let her feel the space. Learn how women think and communicate.
Don't let her mind read or put up with crap behavior (affairs fall in this category). Women tie their feelings of love to respect, if she can walk all over you she can't respect you.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
