hey lost hang in there. Look one thing I have learn is we spend too much time wondering and thinking about what the other person is doing or thinnking. That slows us down from really doing what we need to do. We must grow and we must change not for them and not for the marriage but for us. If they see it GREAT if they don't we are better people because of it. Read my update and you'll know why I say this. God Bless
