Habit, I agree. I was mostly just trying to tell as I see it/feel it.

I think about it a lot, in the beginning I literally felt there was no option. Stay M to W or die.

Obviously if you really think about it that isn't worth it. Just like our W's believe they can happy again, so can we.

That's obviously what GAL is also preparing you for...

Think hard, start to think of things you always wanted to do.

For me, I've always wanted to take a 2 week trip to Wimbledon for the Tennis Championships. I've loved tennis for as long as I can remember. I've brought this upto my W a number of times, and she has zero desire to go. I may just plan this trip for next year if things don't workout.

Also, I grew up wanting to become a Chef. I learned to cook everything from my mother at young age, and as I got older (teens) I would bake and cook all the time just because I liked doing it. A few years ago we had a cook/bake off at work, because the guys and girls got into a conversation about who could cook. Nobody believed that I liked to cook/bake or that I was good at it. Ended up I baked an apple pie...made completely from scratch - and it was voted the best (secret ballet) of all the items that were brought it. In the end that thought I bought it from a baker!! LOL

I'm looking into taking some cooking courses/classes to see where it goes - you just never know.

No matter what happens with my W, I'll likely at least take some in some cooking classes, but the trip will be out of the question.

Other than that, my focus is still going to be on being the best father I can possibly be...I want my girls to grow up knowing their Dad was there for them ALL the time!!

We can do this no matter what the outcome...


Me - 34
W - 33
M - 8 years
T - 15 years
D7, D5, D2
Bomb Nov 10/2010 "I'm not happy and INILWY"
W Staying for the kids Mar 13/2011