Thanks Lainey, sorry i didnt respond sooner, i wandered back to my other thread for a bit.
The separating process continues. I've been sleeping in a separate bedroom for a few weeks now and i admit i'm sleeping decently considering. W always kept to her side of the bed anyways so i dont miss the closeness. One of the cats has taken a liking to sleeping at my feet so that will have to do.
W has bought herself a car and opened up her own separate accounts and discussed getting her own mortgage. We look to have the house ready for selling by mid february (for optimum timing purposes). If things go well then financially we should be just okay.
My oldest daughter (D15) is not taking this well. W has tried to discuss things with her but has been shut out. The two of them have a way of bringing emotions to a head. I am more calm and know how to talk to D. I brought up some separation issues driving her from school exams today, and although she wasnt happy to hear it, she listened. It will plant a seed though at least.
I am as detached and resigned to this as anyone can be. I think i realize i have to let W go and discover that she misses me or appreciates what i did for her. At least thats the fairy tale and i know that. I suspect she will turn into party central and sleep with the first guy that shows interest. So be it...i can't dwell on it. I will be watching closely to see my daughters arent ignored and neglected. I will also not be used as a doormat and respond to everything she needs to do that is HER responsibility. I know that is a fine line when kids are still involved but i will walk it.
I feel confident and assured. My family has my back...my kids love me, i have a decent job, i will be alright.
