Lighthouse lit until WAW comes out of fog 2

[LearningPatience]

Habit, I know it seems like brainwashing or cheerleading, but as a former WAS (with my 1st W), I believe that if my ex had used most of these techniques I may still be M to her.

In my current sitch, I've told W that for me, walking away from my ex without trying to work things out was the biggest mistake of my life. Not in a pleading, chasing way but as a matter of fact (maybe wrong to do, but I think it put a seed in her head). When she's brought up D, I calmly tell her that's not what I want but that I understand that she feels that way. I've learned the hard way to be a much better, empathetic listener.

I wish I could say WAS come out of their fog quickly, but W is still in her fog after at least last summer (and probably more like spring). I've had to learn to be VERY patient which is hard, but if I can do it, anyone can!