Lighthouse lit until WAW comes out of fog 2

[ScaredinCanada]

I was just taking a look at success stories. The newest one is from september. It looks like all of them were placed there by moderators. Am I looking in the wrong places?

I am not trying to cut down DBing, It is the choice I have made and I really don't know what else to do.

This is my family and my live's I am dealing with. I just want to know the facts.

I know when this question about success rates has came up before, it has been mentioned that when most people have success they don't come back, so we don't hear about that.

I can't believe that. I would, and I think most everyone on here that I talk to would to. So where are they?

I am sorry, I really am, but I am starting to feel brainwashed.

I posted that question a number of weeks ago. I agree that likely a lot of people are successful don't come back to talk about it - there busy with their new M!!

Regardless I think the key in all this, like has been said a number of times is DO WHAT WORKS, DON'T DO THINGS THAT DON'T WORK. I know some of what I've done in DB'ing is clearly working, but obviously not sticking to it hurts.

Secondly, I think the time factor when it comes to having WAS come out of the fog/sand/[censored] whatever is not consistant. It's not like we have to do "A" for 1 month, then move onto step "B" and do that for 3 weeks...etc.

Lastly, I think in some cases (maybe mine/maybe yours - maybe all of the BITS) there is nothing that can be done. The D is going to happen no matter what...

Regardless the DB principles focus so much on improving ones self worth almost as if it realizes that most of us "won't get what we came for", but it gives us some of the tools to move on calmly and rationally and in cases were kids are involved - manage to have a decent R with our W's once they are no longer our W's.

With that being said, I've never done well with that thought. Before I met my W, I had 100% completely disconnected from previous girlfriends - I mean most of them I've never seen again. Obviously with my W this wouldn't work, and I'm not really sure how it will work.