hey habit, I feel your pain. It is tough to stay positive but one thing you should do is work for yourself - I KNOW you've heard that a ton but it is true.
but we all know how hard that is. The W IS a part of you. I totally understand that - I'm in the same boat. I want to work on myself but the W is such a large part of that as well...it's tough.
Let me ask you. Why do you think she is still living in the same house? Is she biding her time?
Also, maybe as far as expectations, you should act like you are divorced - only as far as expectations. Then, if she does things, says things - you will be more aware of them. Heck man, there may be little things you aren't aware of.
trying to inspire a little hope as well
m 40 w 38 married 15 together 18 d11, d8 bomb 12/19/10 2nd bomb 3/30/11 COMPLETELY DONE