I really want to thank you all for being there for me. I am sorting and doing alot of thinking. I am going with the flow andwaiting and watching again!
I will bookmark this post, and keep up with what's going on...I feel for you, I honestly do. When I discovered he was falling apart, I nearly fell apart....and nearly made a decision to divorce him.
But, God in His mercy; kept me where I was..and helped me through it all, again.
Don't have but a little time...I will fill you in on the short side of what happened to me; and how it ended, later on.
I realize that no two situations are the same; but something in what I experienced might help you...I don't remember all of it, because I was in Mid Life transition for part of that time.
And, Snodderly, if you're reading this, you were RIGHT; that last issue he didn't face, until it caught up with him, did indeed interrupt my husband's processing.
It just took me some time to see; as the Lord would not reveal but a little at a time; until I could understand it all.
Later.
Remember, as each person is different, every MLC/Transition is different..what works for one may not work for another. Most of the time it is trial and error for ALL involved.
Thanks HB I need to get on here and look at the posts. One good thing I do have a new granddaughter! She is almost 6 months old and I watch her so she keeps me pretty busy and that is a God send!
I too was thinking of D because I didn't know if I could go through this again, but instead I put it back in Gods hands to steer me where I need to go. I have grown and become stronger and learned from my mistakes so I know everything will be fine.
YR, I'm sorry to see that you have returned because the MLC monster is still visiting w/your h. Sometimes, they return to us and move along the path and yet they have not completely integrated and faced all of the issues that have been "in hiding". You know the drill and you know what you need to do..listen, step back and give him lots of room.
Congratulations on the new grand baby. What's her name?
Most important of all...focus on you and your family...take care of yourself and do what you need to do to stay sane.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
As for your h, don't try to diagnose him at this time. I do think it's another step in the MLC journey for him.
God will show you the way and will also take care of things. You know the drill.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
