I would like to try that, but she has never given me an opening. I know it sounds unbelievable, but not one word has been said about R or M.
This is what is so hard, I read everyone's posts and it is all, she said this, I said that, and I am sitting here feeling like I am missing the boat. Or is it that I am the only one doing it by the book?
No communication got us to this point, How does no communication get us out?
Anything on my old threads that I mentioned what my W has said, was all said on D-day. Nothing else, ever! I suppose what I heard on D-day is supposed to be enough for me to work with.
I wish she would just get her f**cking head out of the sand. Sure I had problems, I am dealing with them. When the hell do they have to realize there problems and deal with them instead of running away to happy land.
SIC, it is like you said, They have no idea there is something wrong with them. It is all our fault. Selfish BS. But, we will accept the responsibility and take it all on because we love them so much so we can be the better person and be able to say we gave it all we had. blah, blah, blah.
For better, or for worse. They are just fine during the better, but when the worse shows up, watch em' scatter.
The bible even warns us, it is better not to marry if you can, because it is just going to cause trouble in our lives. It freaking warns us about this. That alone makes a believer out of me.
H-40 W-38 Together-20 Married-12 boy-7 girl-3 bomb-9/17/10 No papers live together No affair