I'm wondering if there an indirect way to enagage her in R talk, without appear to be directly engaging in it? Talk about something that may lead into R discussion? IDK. I'm trying to help.

Like I was saying in my sitch. If my W mentions anything remotely related to the R or M, I'm off like a thoroughbred!

It's clear when she does talk she doesn't want to hear my perspective, she doesn't want me to try to reason with her. She literally wants me to sit there and listen and accept her [censored]. I'm ok with it to a point, because I'm glad we are talking.

I think I'm going to continue the little touching things, do them casually like as if they are normal again. Make her squirm a bit, and possible think more about it. She's obviously conflicted by it - but I want it to bring out a positive in her.

I'm really interest to see what happens on Thursday night after her C appointment. I can almost garentee she comes home and wants to talk, because she told me before that's what the C said, "Be honest and direct with your husband".

She'll reiterate all of the things she already said, "I don't want to be with you anymore, this isn't what I want, I don't love you and I cannot change that - and I don't want to try".

Then I'm left with...What exactly does she expect me to do with this verbal diarrhea? I understand that's how she feels in the moment, and she wants to be done with as soon as possible because she doesn't want anything but her fantasy.


Me - 34
W - 33
M - 8 years
T - 15 years
D7, D5, D2
Bomb Nov 10/2010 "I'm not happy and INILWY"
W Staying for the kids Mar 13/2011