2 small corrections in my first post. we were married sept 2010, not 2011. And, I want to be better in my life and WITH my wife. Not FOR my wife. might sound a bit anal, but for me it is important to be clear.

Ah. now I see the impulsive, compulsive, unbridled flow of speech that sometimes gets me in trouble.

Sometimes the worst thing you can do is say what's on your mind.

Don't believe everything you think, and certainly don't spew those unchecked thoughts out to your spouse.


I am being the possibility of:

1) Integrity
2) Loving myself completely.
3) Things flowing naturally between us, without any fear or attachment to the outcome.

"It's do-able." What are the actions now?