My h went ballistic when I retained a lawyer. Fortnuately a friend intercepted the spewfest,by innocently picking up the phone while I was out, and after that I refused to speak to him unitl he was civil, which led to a nice long period of quiet.
ALthough it cost a lot, it saved me the stress and anguish of having to deal directly with my very mean MLCer, and my laywer was a very nice person. She also protected me and I got a far better deal than the one my h was proposing. Which is one reason I suspect they don't want us to have independent counsel.
I am not sure that it is possible to deal with a MLCer directly in divorce proceedings. Their knowing that another pair of eyes will read all they say seems to help.
I am so sorry you find yourself here, but actually the divorce being finalised brings its own sort of relief. I didn't want it, but it seems to be part of their crazy journey for some. And here we are!
