They are just words and emotions and they roll out of their mouths depending on the color of the moon.
It's funny you make that comment about the moon. For the longest time I've felt that my wife goes through some of her worst cycling right before and during the full moon. What the hell do I know though? I'm no astrologist...
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Actions backing up those words?
Yeah, I have to admit. This does twist my own mind alot. Can you help me digest something? It is now literally four weeks away from when my wife can legally file for divorce...but she has made zero mention of it during the last 6 or 7 months. Hasn't even uttered the word in my presence. On the contrary, some of her 'actions' during the last few weeks definitely seem more positive than negative. But, positive in what way, i have no clue. About a month ago she approached me about enrolling our daughter in a pre-school type of exercise class. We took her to a trial class about a week or so ago. While we were there she had me fill out the enrollment forms for the class, and sign the papers as her 'husband.' In my brain I'm thinking, "What the hell just happened here?!?!?!" Then, as we were leaving the place, we walk right by a State Farm insurance office, which happens to be the office of the guy who sold us our homeowners insurance policy. As we're passing the office she points and says, "Oh look. That's the office of the guy who sold us our insurance policy for our house. Again I'm thinking, "What just happened here?!?!?! What is this 'our' of which you speak alien? You move out of our home 10 months ago. Have you forgotten?!?!"
Fast forward a week or so, and my wife calls me out of the blue to remind me that our annual CostCo membership is due for renewal, and that she doesn't want to renew it because she has no use for it, never uses it, etc... Then, she proceed to tell me that she just went to CostCo two days prior, and using company money, used our CostCo card to purchase over $2000 dollars of items for some kind of party at her work. So, now (in my brain) I'm thinking, "Okay. This feels more 'normal.' This is the alien I know and love so well. Tells me she wants to cancel our CostCo membership card, but then proceeds to use the card to buy $2000 dollars worth of stuff. Totally irrational. But, that's okay! She's an alien, and that's the new normal!" No problem. I've gotten used to this already. Anyhow, to make a long story long, I told her I'd like to think about it a few days before deciding whether or not I wanted to cancel the membership as well. A few days later I tell her that I'd like to keep the membership, and if she didn't want it that I could either pay the entire renewal fee myself, or that we could cancel the membership, and then I'd get a new individual one. She responds with, "I'll just pay you half so that we can renew together for another year." What?!?!?!?!?! I don't know what they mean, but they are certainly not the 'actions' of a woman who is about to file for divorce from her husband. Or, are they in some twisted way??
I suppose all the blabber was mostly me venting. I would like to ask for feedback on something. Is it typical for the MLC spouse to become a messy person during/throughout their crisis? There's been many times I've stopped by the apartment where she lives to pick up our daughter, and there's toys littered all over the floor, her dining table is strewn with used dishes, papers, etc... It's not like she's living in squalor or anything like that. However, in contrast to how she was before her crisis, she has definitely 'let go of things' so to speak. Is it something to do with depression???
