Mj, The crack at you by calling you a "loser" to her sister is a defense mechanism. She is probably struggling right now, so she makes herself feel better by taking a crack at you. Let it go. Calling you a loser is no different than when a WAS says, "I am not sure if I ever loved you..." or some other crap like that. It is their way of saving themselves from the ugly person they have become. You want to know the real kicker??? If she was in public right now without you present and someone else called you a "loser," she would probably kick their *ss. Don't let it bother you and STOP looking in her phone. I did this and all I found was more heart-ache and pain. Not to mention, if she catches you, you are going to be in a world of hurt.
I agree with Denver. Politely go dark for a bit. What other option do you have right now? She is going after you "with both barrels" right now. Get out of the line of fire. Remember, absence makes the heart grow fonder. Give her some time to stop looking to fight with you. It made a difference in my sitch. Yes, I am very far from a reconciliation. But going dark seemed to open up a channel with my W because it gave her time to get over why she left to begin with.
Give it a try. It is better than continually taking shot after shot to your brain from her.
Hang in there!
B.I.T.S.
FOBD
Me: 39 W: 36 T: 15 yrs M: 9 yrs S: 09/10
So you can get on with your search, baby And I can get on with mine And maybe someday we will find, That it wasn't really wasted time...
