You've lived in uncertainty that seemed to be leaning strongly in the direction of her leaving.
Now you are living in uncertainty that looks more like she is willing to consider staying.
Uncertainty is never comfortable.
But the kind you are in now would seem to be highly preferrable to the kind you had before.
"For everything there is a season."
Dealing with issues, confronting things like infidelity...there will be a time for this. And yes, she absolutely appears at times to want to sweep it under the rug. Who would not want that? I think you can be sure that inside of her, it is not swept under a rug.
Push for this to be reconciled now, and watch your situation deteriorate once again.
This is the time to be quiet. This is the time to allow her to percolate, so to speak. This is the time for you to show yourself to be her rock.
Think about what she must need more than anything right now.
It's not advice.
It's not resolution.
It's not confrontation.
It's not decisions.
She needs the opportunity to get inside her own head and heart, to figure out what has happened, to honestly think about where she was, where she is, and where she wants to head.
And...though she will never tell you this...she needs someone in her life who is solid, who is truth, who is integrity, who is compassion, who cares.
Up for the job?
Blessings,
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
