Ready to give up

[blue2010]

I am not sure I have actually done LRT.
I realize in type things do not come across as real as what is going on. My W has had many a bad/sad/crying moment the last couple of weeks. i remain the constant in my house. For the kids and I suppose for her. She will toss out a comment enticing a response from me to trigger an argument i do not take the bait. I am grounded, she keeps pushing the If you want me to go.
All the R conversations have been started by her. When they turn to a point that she inteprets that I want an answer even when I have not said anything of the sort i clarify i am not asking for an answer right now.

Her biggest thing right now is she wants to forget it, forget it ever happened, not del with it, not talk about it, not discuss it ever. She fears maybe someday it will come up again because I am mad or something at which point i mentioned she could be mad and it could come up.
So I may be wrong but I feel that in order to rebuild on a new healthy foundation she needs to stop pretending I can read her mind, and at some point actually confront and deal with instead of bury inside what happened.
She filed D papers that was about 40 days ago. They will be in the system a max of 60 more days, she doesn't know where they are. She was buying a house, she bought a truck but has only told ne she is ignoring the real estate agents emails. So when I said i still don't know if you are buying a house, I do not get a direct answer. I get well i can't afford both. She could If she worked enough. But my point is her indirectness. Part of how we got here.
So I do not think i am pursuing I also am not being mean.

I truly hope that she really has not had any contact with OM also.

Thank You for the responses.