Thank you for the reply, that book is actually what brought me to this website.
I am having a difficult time figuring out where to start.
The only goal I can come up with is to get her to send me an email. I need more goals.
As far as techniques go, I was curious as to how to proceed. The first one I come to is "do something different."
Based on advice from others, I send my wife a daily email saying pretty much "Here is something that happened today, I miss you, I'm thinking about you. I love you." Occasionally I'll purposefully not send it, the idea being that she will wonder whats up and think about me. The person that suggested it said "getting you in her head is a good thing."
Now this is where I question goals. I have been doing this for about two months now, and I have actually noticed our conversations improving. She has even referenced some of the emails, but I really don't think she reads all of them.
Is this a good or bad practice?
The other question I am pondering is if I'm at the "extreme" to which I should resort to the LRT.
Go back to DR and read the LRT chapter. When are we suppose to implement LRT? Is that your sitch? If so, you need to stop sending emails telling her that you miss her or that you love her. That is pursuing. A no no in LRT.
If your first goal is to get her to email you, you might consider going dark for a period. Maybe 2 or 3 weeks. See if this piques her curiosity. BTW, I do think that this is a good beginning goal, but you might phrase it that your goal is to get her to contact you. A phone call would be better???
She needs to wonder what is going on with you for a change...
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M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
