Can't seem to tell what stage or what i'm doing

[Metal]

My boundary is that I'm not going to help her find or pay for an apartment. And I'm paying for that boundary right now, by her 2nd day of basically no-communication with me. Prior to this, we were quite friendly, and even went out to lunch, and talked in the evenings, etc. Now I think she is mad, and is desperately looking for a job and a way out.

I do enjoy my bed. She really loves it though. Its a big room with a big bathroom. I chose (after her 12/2010 bomb) to give her some separation by going upstairs with S5. S5 and D11 love it, D11 comes in with us too. We have started praying in the evenings together, and D11 has been pretty upset by the whole crisis. I am building a very tight bond with the kids, and even made some recent progress w/SS17. It may seem weird, but we raised our kids in our bed. S5 has only been in his "own" bed since about 1 year ago, prior he was in our bed. I don't know.. does that change your opinion at all? I really want to know. I'm going to give this some thought. The other thing to mention, is that I have asked the inlaws to move out, and they'll leave at the end of Feb, at which time W plans to move to that part of the house. So, I see this a one-more-month. I don't know. I love her, and I want to buy as much time as I can, but I don't want to be a doormat either.