I have done everything wrong....

[Denver_2010]

Islander - I fell your pain buddy. I was an absolute wreck for the first 3 weeks of my mess. I'm still not in a good place and cry at least once on an almost daily basis. Usually when I'm driving for some reason. Just today, I was sitting at my desk and began to wonder, for the 2 millionth time, how this has happened to me. I never thought that I'd be in this sitch. It still seems so unreal.

Grocery is right. GAL helps a lot. Detaching is also very helpful, but is very, very difficult.

I can also relate to not wanting to be in your empty home. I stay away from my house as much as possible. I will tell you something that I did immediately after my W moved out that has helped. I went out on a major shopping spree and replaced most of the stuff that I let her take to her new place. Furniture, decorations etc. This made my house seem fuller and more mine. W even commented the next time that she was there that "it is sad to see my house not my house anymore"... think about it.

Make sure to read the 37 DB rules that I found when I first came to this board and cut and pasted onto your thread. They really helped me focus my efforts.

Keep your head up man. There is no where to go but up for all of us.

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Denver