Look, in my opinion, you're doing a great job with this situation. It's extremely hard to swallow your words when there are things you'd like to say, points you'd like to make, arguments you'd like to win.
But you are taking the right approach, I am sure of it.
There is nothing to be gained by begging, pleading, or trying to talk her out of what she says she wants.
Nothing.
But there is nothing wrong with letting her know that you disagree, and that you are not going to participate in disolving the marriage until you have to. In fact, better still if your demeanor and your attitude say these things, and that appears to be what you've done.
At the same time, you are doing this with loving compassion, instead of beating her up about the direction she is choosing. That means you are keeping clear the path back to you, should she begin to second guess her choices.
Stay strong. Stay balanced. Care for yourself and provide yourself with ways of blowing off the stress without showing it to her.
Unfortunately, in the end, it is possible for one person to choose to end a marriage. But if that worst case happens, you will know that you handled it with compassion and made it clear that it was not what you wanted.
Blessings,
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
