You have to be careful giving the suggestion that there is another person involved. If someone suggests that THEY suspect there is someone else, that is a different story. You can help them work through it. It can be dangerous advice to suggest that there is an affair going on.
Scared--I THINK sandi is suggesting that if your wife is ready to leave she may have it in her mind that she is dreaming of another lifestyle in the future, not that she is making a plan with someone.
