XH is driving me crazy!!! Last year he took me to court to get a contact order. It meant I had to court a couple of times and my sons were also interviewed by a court reporter. It was really stressful for all of us and not something I wanted. I was hoping we could somehow co-parent our kids. However in hindsight it has been a good idea as the purpose if create structure and give us a framework from which to work.

However since the court order has been in place XH has asked on numerous occassions to changes dates, drop off times etc. Really this goes against the function of the contact order. He is a bully and we dont communicate so for me this piece of paper has been fantastic. As it alleviates all the negotiating stress.

Anyway he has now said he cant drop our sons off on sunday at the alloted time and as per the court order. I am currently unemployed as was made redundant last and therefore financially things are really tight. (have a massive solicitors bill and also XH managed to leave me with some big debts). He lives 45 miles away and I really cant afford the gas to go and fetch my sons. In fact I do 100 miles a week just doing the school run. He does not do anything with our sons other than have them on his weekend. The judge said that on the odd occassion if I could then I should fetch my sons which I agreed to, however I can not on this occassion. Also XH has only informed me, so hasnt given me any notice and also didnt ask. But rather told me saying: that it wasnt up for discussion and that I had to fetch them on this occassion. Otherwise he would return then when he could.

I am really not being unreasonable. I do all the school runs and everything else for our sons, all he needs to is fetch and drop them off twice a month.

I will not let him still bully me like he did in our M and tell me what I am and am not doing. In the past when I have needed help, like when I broke my coccyx and could hardly drive our sons to school, he told me it wasnt his problem and I needed to make a plan.

This is just so frustrating!!! I do feel however that I have set a boundary and therefore need to stick to it. In the past I have always backed down and let him get away with it.


Me 37 years young!!
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D final 13.05.2010
Today is the first day of the rest of my life!!!
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