The best advice I think I have gotten so far is GAL. I know you heard it a thousand times but really dissconnect from her. I have done that for two days and it feels good. I don't know how I did it or when it happened but right now I feel pretty good. Ofcourse by 3pm I'll be crying again and singing the woe is me song.
But Da&& it right now I want to enjoy my small victory. If I can keep this going I should be in a better frame of mind. Try Try to detach yourself and live for you. Stop expecting and be surprised.
Hope this last! Going out tonight with a friend for a few drinks.
Im soooo PROUD of you!! You did it man!!! How awesome that you went and did your thing. That was a sure sign, of your getting stronger.
What lept off your page was the your W is dead. WOW, I said that and thought it a ton too. I think, I love the H I use to know. He's dead, let it go.
But, here's the deal...who they are today is not them...You & I both know that. They are not the behavior that they are showing. That's why we continue to love them because, we know the real them.
How I think of it now is....if my H speaks to me or comes back again. The old Marraige is DEAD. Let's face it we don't want that one anyway. We want a new and restored Marraige. Where we have learn all these lessons and apply them to a new us/we.
But, I know for sure one thing. I will be Da** if I'm gonna file for D! So, think about this real hard, before you file for anything. There is no rush. You've been through a real hard time. The moving out part almost killed me when it happened. But, you will see. You will start to feel more calm about it.
Just hold on my friend! I'm in your corner, we all are!!
Me: 40 H: 39 M: 17 yrs - Together 18 1/2yrs No kids Seperated: May 18, 2006 EA/Poss PA with OW for 6 months prior to leaving. 2nd Bomb dropped: Dec. 23, 2010
