H&I have been separated since 11/7/10. He has/had a girlfriend since middle of October. He wants a divorce and wants to be with her, she is also approx 12 weeks pregnant. We have three young children together. We have both had affairs. He feels relationship is irreparable. I disagree of course.

They say not to let your spouse read DR. Is DB okay for him to read. I'm reading it right now and dont like it nearly as much as DR. He said he would genuinely read a book for me, I just want some suggestions on what book to give him that might spark a lil interest in reconciling. We have been together for 17 years, married 13.5 years.

Three girls 7,6,3. Both work full time.

Thanks...