I got the heating oil delivered last Tuesday, and I’ve checked it and we’ve burned through about ½ already ... so I’m paying for another ½ tank tomorrow to be delivered this week. I had a cord of soft wood delivered today and another coming tomorrow (apparently dry hardwood is hard to find this time of year, go figure ) ... and potentially another cord and half maybe next weekend. This should get me through until at least the end of February, and maybe into March depending on how cold it gets (we’ve had a cold snap, it’s been -31 with the wind chill here for the last few days!).
So, due to all of that ^^^ I can’t make my mortgage payment on February first ... I’ve emailed the guy and he’s slow to correspond and not being extreemly cooperative (deferred payments are not an option, and I’m not sure on the interest only). So, I asked my sister (a law student and prosecutor in a large Canadian city) to look into what the consequences are. Technically the mortgage is not in my name yet and we have a rental agreement until I assume the mortgage ... so, that being said if I don’t pay on February 1st, they can give me notice of intention to evict on February 2nd. IF they do that, I have 10 days in which I can pay the rent/mortgage in full and they can not evict me. So IF that happens, I will borrow the money from someone to make it happen. If they work with me, I will pay it in four small chunks throughout the month (hopefully, I am robbing Peter to pay Paul now ... trying to find part time work to suppliment my income).
I’ve also closed up some drafty doors, put kits on a couple of windows, bought a couple of small electric heaters to take the edge off so I can leave the thermostat turned down ... and ... my favorite .... my mom’s idea ... used pantyhose to cover by dryer vent so the heat isn’t vented outside! LOL!
The kids and I have been really sick this weekend (head colds and then a really nasty 8 hr stomach bug) and I got a speeding ticket on my way to work this morning (totally my own fault I know!!!) but all in all I feel better ... scared and unsure of what’s around the corner but at least I’m trying to be proactive and prioritizing ...
StbxH called to tell me he didn’t have the money he thought he would to help with wood (no anger or disappointment because I had no expectation ) and then instead of making the calls he promised to make I started to get texts with potential phone numbers etc (again, whatev!) ... and I made the calls and have a couple of cords of wood this week. He still says he’ll come good for part of the wood, and if he does ... bonus! But I’m not counting on it. He did come get the kids yesterday when he found out how sick I was and all in all we are getting along really well. I’m glad I can show my children how it is to treat someone with respect and take the highroad ... my choices are not based on what he’s done but who I am and who I want to be.
So, in a nutshell ... I have a tight and rough couple of mos ahead of me, but if I juggle wisely and make some really good choices I should be back on top in a few months.
Thanks to all of you for your support and friendship
Peace PEI
Holding onto anger to punish someone else, is like lighting yourself on fire to get smoke in their eyes ~ 25yearsmlc
) ... and potentially another cord and half maybe next weekend. This should get me through until at least the end of February, and maybe into March depending on how cold it gets (we’ve had a cold snap, it’s been -31 with the wind chill here for the last few days!).
) and then instead of making the calls he promised to make I started to get texts with potential phone numbers etc (again, whatev!) ... and I made the calls and have a couple of cords of wood this week. He still says he’ll come good for part of the wood, and if he does ... bonus! But I’m not counting on it. He did come get the kids yesterday when he found out how sick I was and all in all we are getting along really well. I’m glad I can show my children how it is to treat someone with respect and take the highroad ... my choices are not based on what he’s done but who I am and who I want to be.
