Ok, good. I was going down the path of starving myself. I have to log my food intake for my personal trainer and got the talking to of my life!
You live in Canada and he took your snow shovel? Really? Someone should knock him over the head with it. I am sooooooooooooo glad that you didn't react. I really have to hand it to you because I'm not so sure I could restrain myself. In that sitch, my H would probably get the reaction he was looking for I probably would hide the ice melt and sand.
These guys really think that we cannot do without them? My H left my car with 3 almost flat tires one morning. He swears he didn't know they were flat. Whatever. Anyway, I got myself to the station and got them filled. No big deal. I think that shocked him. Before I met him, I wouldn't even fill my own gas tank! I was so mad, I would have cracked up my car before I would have asked him to help.
You keep having a good day!!! You are doing great!
Good for you, Wanda!!! Great attitude! When I was married the first time, I never put gas in my car. The XH did it. He took care of the cars, bills, house, everything. When he left, it was shocking in a lot of ways. But I learned to take care of myself, learned to live without him, learned to love living on my own and being self-sufficient. My self-esteem was never higher. Learn, learn, learn and when / if they return, we're all the better for growing and learning. Otherwise, all this pain is for nothing if we learn nothing. Great job on DB'ing!
Me - 38, 2nd M, no living children, 1 forever 6 yr old boy H - 44, 3rd M, twins 16
Dating 4/07 M 10/08 Bomb #1 12/10 Bomb #2 1/11 Bomb #3 12/11
I know I have to do this for myself. I just tell myself everyday, TODAY IS GOING TO BE A GOOD DAY!
I have only had 2 texts from H today and they were regarding money a mutual friend owes us. He wants to take her to small claims court and I do not. I told him to do what he wants. Talked to friend about the money and she is hurting right now so she said she would pay as soon as she can. He is going to burn a lot of bridges on this path of destruction he is taking.
I did have an old friend of his stop by to see me today. He hasn't spoke to H since last April. We had a good visit. I am not exactly sure what happened to their friendship and I didn't ask. The friend and I were always good friends before so it was nice to see him again. And no there is nothing between us at ALL.
Well H is texting again...he needs this and he needs that...blah blah blah. Getting tired of it.
Me:35, 2 kids from PR H: 37, 2 kids with me T: 15 years M: 8 years in Feb. Second walk out: 14-01-2011 H had PA: 2007
Thanks grr...I am only strong sometimes. That is why I do not want the face to face with H yet. Working on me first so I don't become a raging lunatic when I do see him.
A few weeks before H left we had discussed S11 getting a cell phone. My MIL had a pay and talk that she didn't use anymore and said she would give it to me. So when IL's were here on Sunday they brought the phone by. Today I hooked it up and gave it to S. So he texted daddy to let him know. Next thing I know i am getting a text from H saying "you could have given me a heads up about the phone, why are you not communicating with me"
First off, he KNEW!!! Secondly, why did I have to give him the heads up? He is not paying for it. I am the one who has the kids 90% of the time with no vehicle...and thirdly, isn't that somethimg a H and W would talk about together???? He wanted out. He left. He does not get to make those choices anymore.
But even with all that he still didn't ruin my day. I got called for a job interview today and it sounded like they already had made there minds up that I am the one getting the job. Sweet day for me. And I am not telling H.
Me:35, 2 kids from PR H: 37, 2 kids with me T: 15 years M: 8 years in Feb. Second walk out: 14-01-2011 H had PA: 2007
Today was a little bit different. H didn't text until later in the afternoon. At first it was about kids and then a little bit about getting some money...he actually texted THANK-YOU twice today during convo. That was a little weird for me to see. he never says thanks for anything to me.
D is not taking all of this too well today. She keeps asking me if daddy and I are breaking up. Why won't I let daddy in the house? If I would talk to daddy face to face it would be all better....and it goes on and on from there. Trying my best not to let her see me loose it. I hate seeing her like this. I think it is the worst part of this seperation. The kids get hurt and it has nothing to do with them.
H is going to pick kids up after school tomorrow so hopefully she can talk to him a little about this. I am running out of answers.
Well my job interview is tomorrow. A little nervous, but I really need this so I have to be positive!!! Sending hugs to all...hope everyone has a good night or day!
Me:35, 2 kids from PR H: 37, 2 kids with me T: 15 years M: 8 years in Feb. Second walk out: 14-01-2011 H had PA: 2007
So I think I did a little bit of backsliding today...H is picking up kids after school today and we had a text convo that I don't think went well.
Me: D needs to hear from you that this is not a temporary sitch.
H: I have told her that already. Don't know what else to say to her.
Me: Well she keeps saying , if you would just let daddy in the house, if you would just let daddy sleep in your bed, if you would just talk to daddy face to face he will come back.
H: well it would be nice if you would talk to me face to face.
Me: for what rewason?
H: because it is more humane. you never treated you ex like this.
Me: well I never married x and i never loved x like i loved you.
end of texting.....so that was a big oops! I should know better.
Making me have a bad day now....have to be positive for job interview. I want off this crazy rollercoaster ride right now. I want my kids to stop hurting. GRRRRRRRRRRRR!!!!!!
Me:35, 2 kids from PR H: 37, 2 kids with me T: 15 years M: 8 years in Feb. Second walk out: 14-01-2011 H had PA: 2007
I probably would hide the ice melt and sand.