New Year, New Me. Not a resolution, just is...

[AntoniaB]

I'm sorry that this is happening for you. You said it was so bad that all those years of marriage had to come to this. I think the hardest thing for us to do is to get out of that mindset, the idea that a whole marriage can be "summed up" in its end. It shouldn't be. Not at all. None of what was good should ever be tainted by the bad which only really happens at the demise. But none of us can really believe that when the demise is all around us. I have a feeling that in 10 years from now, we'll all feel very differently about this idea and we'll see the divorce as a small part of a much larger whole. I'm afraid time is the only thing that fixes this.

There is a quote in a book I teach that says "great love stories aren't about how they end. They're about how they begin." I try to remind myself about that quote often.


(((HUGS)))