Thanks Sandi. It wasn't planned, it was just something that happen. If she didn't react the way she did I obviously would have felt like I took a step back in DB'ing, but like I said I mixed reaction that showed me she kind of liked it.
I think what you said about mixing it up and trying to remove some of the tension is important. Last night we were home together all night and we barely talked. To be honest the only thing we talked about was D5 who has been sick throwing up for 2 days.
W seemed really upset/depressed. I probably should read too much into it, because there could be a million different reasons for it. Her aunt killing her dream, her sister telling me she's pregnant before her, sad about D5 being sick, looking at houses and wishing she move now, mixed emotions about me and M, etc.
I'm going to the gym after work so I'll be late and then I'll try to be low key at home and just watch her actions - limit conversation as much as possible. I am talking the girls swimming on Wednesday night and then hockey on Thursday, so I'm keeping busying which helps keep my mind of W, R and M.
Every chance I get I have to remind myself...I have a few months at least for her to soften.
I'm really struggling trying to decide when we should start MC...
Me - 34 W - 33 M - 8 years T - 15 years D7, D5, D2 Bomb Nov 10/2010 "I'm not happy and INILWY" W Staying for the kids Mar 13/2011