Can't seem to tell what stage or what i'm doing

[Metal]

Maybe i'm just talking to myself, but here goes...

She spent the day at the beach on Sunday to "think", and get some clarity. She really enjoyed it, and was in a pretty good mood when she got back home.. until she dropped the bomb - that her clarity was that she needed more separation, to move out. She said that I needed to think of a solution to get her out. I calmly said that I understood, but did not agree, and did not want to help her with it (since i didn't agree). Well... she didn't like that at all. She said that I wasn't allowed in the bedroom anymore, and should take my clothes out, and consider that area her "new apartment". Out of respect, I agreed that I would (hadn't been sleeping in there anyway since her 12/13/10 bomb).

So, I've given a small boundary, right. But, she is totally withdrawn from me.. not even friendship right now. I'm worried that this "boundary" has hurt my sit. I know that I have been a chronic fixer in the past (part of our M-breakdown). But i'm feeling like maybe I should bend some more.. and it's tearing me up. I already feel like i'm bending over - sleeping in the S5 room, and now moving my clothes up there, and agreeing to not enter W's room anymore.

Am I setting good boundaries here? or am I breaking R ??