Antonia, your h dropped the bomb less than two years ago, and the mask is in place, and he is on the MLC Replay high. He seems to be one of the 'drop ins' [A former poster characterised MLCers as Drop-ins, who stay relatively friendly and in contact, drop outs, who run and rage, and droplets, who are mostly away but periodically come back to see what is going on. ] Drop-ins seem to be rarer, but there have been a number of them here over the years. Holly06's h was nice to her, and after 5/6 years and a divorce they are re-building. They need to feel good about themselves, and are often quite compliant personalities. The drop outs seem to be the cross grained personalities who fight the crisis hard and long or at least, that is how it appears to me
MLCers are adroit at wearing masks, and at keeping them in place And yet, you have posted several instances of the mask slippig, and your h showing signs of tears and regret. I also had the MLC script about being the greatest actor who ever lived, and the flat denial of depression. It is covert depression, and can mask very deep seated anger.
I do not doubt your h hid his issues - from you and from himself. Now they are out and raging around he thinks he saw them the whole time. He still thinks, in part he is a hero for staying as long as he did. Remember it is all about them. It is like line 'But that is enough about me - what do you think about me!'
