I hate to think or say this but if there is another man, I can still only worry about me. I cannot control her actions or feelings. Just continue to do what you need to do. I am learning that as long as I try to enjoy my time each day with the kids when I get home, my evening goes better.

Of course I want to discuss our Relationship every given opportunity but she does not want to hear the pleas. I just need to keep doing what keeps me happy in these horrible times, that is enjoy my kids! And enjoy seeing her face in my house. At least I can still see her each day.


Me - 39 yrs old
Wife - 39 yrs old
Married - 18 years
Together - almost 21 year
Kids - son age 13/ daughter age 10
Bomb Dropped in May 2010
Seperating - June 2011, after school lets out