Twink, many MLCers exhibit signs of narcissistic personality disorder, and one of its manifestations is to pull someone who is pulling away, closer in and then hurt them. It is sometimes characterised as 'Come closer so that I can slap you [again]' I am not sure if it conscious action, or just the way they are in MLC. But it does account in part for those 'touch and goes' that so many of us have had They even sometimes ask to come back, and work on the marriage, then do nothing and leave a few days or weeks later.
The damage they do to their children, whatever their ages, is horrifying, and a sure sign that something is pretty wrong. This is just one reason why we have to be strong and stable and sane and loving!
