18 Years of Marriage - Leaving in June

[Bolt]

s2d - been following your sitch and man, it mirrors mine to a T. It's amazing how we all end up like this. I wish there was a manual you could get the day you get married

Let me ask you, do you find yourself perplexed when you want to change into the man your W wants but need to detach?

Sandi2, what is the woman's perspective on that? It seems logical (I know..) that the W would want this new man - caring, thoughtful, respectful, kind - but it seems that we can't show those qualities because it would be pursuing...

catch 22 or is this strictly from a guy's perspective?