Ah, the negative "gifts" our exes leave us on their way out the door!!!!
Luckily, I'm a person with a fairly strong sense of self, so I didn't really take my ex-husband's weird complaints about me totally to heart. But just yesterday, I was dining with some old school chums, and they were asking me advice (based on my work). As I told them a few things they were actually very very interested in what I had to say (I AM good at what I do). But at a certain point, I did have a moment of pause, thinking about one of my ex's complaints - that I'm only friends with people I can boss around! (SO untrue btw - just because people ask for my advice does not mean I enjoy bossing them around, and these friends I've known for 40 years!)
I guess my point is - I know his complaint was rubbish, and CERTAINLY didn't apply in any way to THESE friends - still, he contaminated my mind for just a second there.
Now - if you know that you had an issue with not being able to be open with boyfriends BEFORE your husband - that's perhaps something you want to work on, loosening up a bit and all. But if it's just the nasty residue of your ex - try not to let him contaminate your present.
