My post was in no way meant to be a slap.. or to discourage you from posting. Was it over the top?.. Maybe. I like to challenge people and I am very sarcastic. Your post was very good and solid advice. It was heartfelt and well thought out. I could "see" you put some effort into it. I would say.. I like your "heart". It is (heart) something I look for when I post to someone.
I am a "Newcomer" but I am not a "Newbie". I understand the dynamic that is plaguing my household. I see both sides.
The reaction to my post to you is very similar to the reaction I get at home when trying to "discuss" things. The point I was trying to make with my little dig at you is that when one persons "needs" are placed higher than the others "needs" this will happen. My outlook on life seems "dirty" or "nasty" to someone like yourself. It is really hard to argue or get a point across when what you hold close is looked down upon. It is just as strange to me that you place so much value in the "kids".
If you want me to explain the value of the kids I will. Just as sex is pretty much etched in your brain as a primary biological drive, protection and nurturing of children is ours. It doesn't mean we love our men less, or find sex distasteful, it is OUR primary biological drive. When you value the children you had part in creating, play with them, laugh with them, cuddle them, you're on the same team with us, you value our efforts in raising decent human beings. We feel warmly affectionate to you.
I am not placing her needs above yours Forest. Someone has to start the dynamic spinning. You, as the male take the lead here, she's not going to for some simple biologically based/psychosexual reasons. I don't think ML is dirty or nasty by any stretch. Your focus is there, you are male. I understand that.
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With that said.. I asked you some questions and would really like you to answer them. Think about why I asked them.
Just remember I am sarcastic.. and always smiling.
Well I was smirking a little bit when I was posting to FB2.
BITS Me-51, WAS-52 Kids 2 M-26yrs, H.left 2009, 2 more Bomb drops, Reconnection spring 2013 Change is inevitable, personal growth is a choice. Love is a action and choice you make, every day.
