My wife has never responded to my emails, she just mentioned the content of some of them. For example, in one of them I said that I was having a rough day. Then the next day when I chatted with her, she asked why I was having a rough day.
Our conversations are very limited, and just small talk. Basically how our day went. She'll tell me a little bit about work, and how the people there drive her nuts because they are lazy. I'll listen and try to be empathetic. The other night when trying to compliment her, I ended up coming across as lecturing and she ended the conversation saying "You know why I don't tell you have I really feel about <insert non-important item>, I don't want the lecture from you that follows."
Conversation with her is something that I struggle with, I want to delve into "Come back, it'll be different, look at what has already changed, I forgive you, etc" so badly that I struggle with keeping a normal conversation. It's like we have nothing to really talk about other than the cats and how our day went.
Thank you for the welcome, and I'm glad you mentioned the "full moderation." It was indeed discouraging.
