I want to thank you for serving and for your wife's service in the military.
I'm glad you are goal and solution oriented, it will serve you well even though they are hard to set.
How often is your wife responding to your emails? What are the conversations like?
I'm glad you found us, 'What' (feel like I'm playing 'who's on first'). Don't get discouraged by 'full moderation' posts which make things go slow. It will soon go more quickly.
Folks here care and are here to help you. You are not alone.
sg Love is PATIENT, love is KIND, LOVE never fails / DB since 2001