New Year, New Me. Not a resolution, just is...

[seeking answers]

Thanks everybody.

Grace, my H filed although I haven't received papers yet.

He did email me back and say that we would file jointly. That is a relief as I know I will get more back by filing this way and taxes are due on my place.

Mach, I did think of each of us claiming one child. That would be fine with me. I don't think H will see it that way, but maybe. Just another thing to be ironed out in the D business.

[punkin]

Seeking Seeking!

Hey! How have you been? I see from your last post still no papers. Your H's L must be more incompetent than my H's.

I know you are facing another week waiting for papers to arrive, one way or another. At least you are steeling yourself up for them. Remember, it's only a piece of paper. And while it hurts, it doesn't change a thing, girlfriend.

Not to throw a glitch in your plans, but if H is major breadwinner, and you've been separated over six months, you have the right to file single. My tax lady says I may even get some Earned Income Credit back. The filing jointly only helps HIM in most cases.

Try to have a great week. Sometimes I have to look up at the heavens and just say "Thank you, God", if for nothing else, than for the beautiful day. Somehow, it helps me. ((HUGS))

[seeking answers]

Not waiting anymore. My divorce papers were served to me tonight.

[WCW]

((((seeking))))

[Twink]

So sorry (((SA))). Breathe. You will be fine. We all know it.

[courageous wife]

(((SA)))

The wait is over...

You know I'm here if you need me!

[dl443322]

SA, so sorry. It makes it all real when that happens.

No one knows what the future holds, but, it's time to get into a different mindset for awhile. You need to do what you must to protect yourself and your children.

I know this is hard, sweetie. Sometimes they have to do this.

You keep on your path.

You are in my prayers.

[seeking answers]

Thank you all so much for your support. I truly appreciate it.

I never thought our 28 years would come down to this. It's a sad way to finish what from my perspective was a good and happy marriage.

[warriorshadow]

Seeking,

If your perspective was a good and happy marriage, I am willing

to bet it was. Does it make sense that you would not be here

fighting for it if it wasn't?

What about all those kids in your signature? Are you going to

tell me that deep down he regrets the family he has helped raise?

Deep down does not seem to be a very accessible place during MLC.


YOU are a very critical and important part of that family

that came to be. It could not have been done without you.


Having 3 boys of my own, I am totally blessed to have them in

my life.

I have to believe that the MLC'r ends up in a very twisted world

during their journey. That is my perspective.

WS

[Mila]

SA - my thoughts are with you...no matter how much you anticipate it and expect it....must be really hard to actually be served.

I never thought our 28 years would come down to this. It's a sad way to finish what from my perspective was a good and happy marriage

I feel the same SA, I still can't make any sense out of it accept to blame it all on MLC. Every long term marriage has something that could be worked on, it wouldn't be realistic to think it was perfect, but just walk away from it without any warning or effort to save it if he was unhappy...don't get it

You hang in there SA and many hugs to you my friend....