Mila, I agree with punkin, at least as far as personal recreational and entertainment expenses are concerned. H and I had always had equal monthly "allowances" to pay for clothes, gifts, sporting equipment and the like. After he left, and at my request, we expanded what had to be paid out of our personal accounts to include all entertainment and recreation, including restaurant meals and travel, except when it with our Ds (who have not yet been exposed to OW and would likely not agree to be). We raised our allowances to account for the change. H spends his, I save much of mine. Except for one instance a couple of weeks ago, H has not used out joint accounts for his personal expenses. I know because, like you, I handle all of the joint accounts, and watch them carefully. Nevertheless, if H starts to spend from them, I will take measures to protect myself.
I remember that you posted several times about paying for OW expenses for H. No way would I have done that. How humiliating. Your H's choices come with consequences, and one of them should be paying his own bills, at least in regard to his A.
M 65 H 64 T 39 & M 36 @ S 12/08 Two Ds
Do you know that the harder thing to do and the right thing to do are usually the same thing? Nothing that has meaning is easy. ~ The Weather Man
