girl, I'm so sorry you are aching. I think your type of situation is the wave of the future. The good news is--I don't think it's YOU, it may just be lifestyle/life pattern.
So many folks nowadays are just more comfortable with a different style of living, more travel, less traditional. And they feel smothered with the traditional. We have this expectation that if we don't get the traditional live in the same home, raise kids, together all evening, etc, that we've failed. But that isn't true. The two of you get to design your lifestyle.
I have struggled with it myself. At the end of the day what I really need is to know I'm loved. To have my partner be there for me often and when I need him. He and I were both married before. He has 4 kids, I have 2. One of his is special needs. We have two homes that won't sell soon. We live close enough to each other, we love each other dearly and intimately, and for a long time. We're together, but the details are a hot mess. We are completely committed, and we are working on making it more traditional, but we are not letting it stress us out and take a toll on our relationship, but we're OLDER and wise about that--and we've been broken up and got back together. We know we value each other.
Your details are a hot mess. Your H didn't come from traditional. You can work through this.
trust in yourself, your love and your own words
"anyway, i'm sorry to be back and the biggest lesson i learned from this, is that if you are given another chance..keep the changes going and pay attention to your situation."
namaste
sg Love is PATIENT, love is KIND, LOVE never fails / DB since 2001
